The Joy Of Letting Go

 Did you know parents let go of their children every day, often in ways they don’t realize? Whether your kids are in kindergarten or college, learn how to prepare your hearts for your kids’ independence with Vicki Caruana’s The Joy of Letting Go. The 52 devotional readings within shine a light on all the times readers have loosened their grip on their children and encourages them to continue to let go in life-giving ways. Written by a parenting and education expert, The Joy of Letting Go will comfort and inspire parents in all seasons of parenting.



The Joy of Letting Go: Releasing Your Teen into Real Life in the Big World (David C. Cook, April 2017)

With readings of encouragement and inspirational quotes, this devotional helps parents prepare their hearts for their children’s independence, whether their kids are just starting kindergarten or graduating from college.

Parents let go of their children every day, even in ways they don’t realize. The 52 devotional readings within shine a light on all the times readers have loosened their grip on their children and encourages them to continue to let go in life-giving ways. Written by a parenting and education expert, The Joy of Letting Go will comfort and inspire parents in all seasons of parenting.

Learn more  and purchase a copy.

My Review

My children are 37, 33, 33 and 28. I was that person that, while teaching my children to be extremely self sufficient, I also was THAT MOM. You know the one.

My child was special! Amazing! Going to rule the world!! (Rolling eyes at myself here)

I also was going to do whatever it took to make that happen.

In doing that, I alienated all my kids and made their life more difficult. Not only were they not 100% prepared, no matter what I taught them, and me having nothing (so I thought) to hang my hat on, our lives became very complicated to say the least.

You raise your kids for the result, to leave your home and be out on their own.

You need to give them the self confidence that they can leave your home, and want to come back and more importantly are comfortable coming home to visit.

They want to come back, NOT because they need to, but because they want to.

God gives us resources to work through this season of our lives!
Vicki Caruana puts these resources together in a great devotional called “The Joy of Letting Go: Releasing Your Teen into Real Life In The Big World
“The, very best words we have from God are Phil 4:6-7- Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with Thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus”


There it is. The direction in which we should let our kids go.

From their first little steps, all the way to the college dorm (or first apartment and job etc.)

With prayer and petition, with Thanksgiving.

Oh, how I would live a do-over!!
1st. For the plain and simple reason that I would follow God’s command.
2nd. So that my children could see me and their childhood home in a different frame of mind. By reframing my whole “mother hen” attitude to a #spreadtheirwingsandwnjoytheirflight attitude, I would give my kids the best thing ever.

Truth that Jesus will protect them and truth that they would always find their way back home.

The verse I gave is one that Caruana uses with 52 devotionals to help parents understand that growing up and moving on (in most cases) isn’t optional, it is the way God intended life to be.

You can purchase The Joy of Letting Go  here at the bottom of the information

Dr. VicVCaruana-435ki Caruana is the author of 20 books and the blog Apples & Chalkdust—named after her bestselling book that has touched the lives of a million educators around the world. Caruana is one of four parenting experts on “Starting Points,” Focus on the Family’s parenting DVD series. Formerly a public school teacher and a homeschooling mom, Vicki is now an assistant professor of education at Mount Saint Mary College in New York. She lives with her station wagon loving husband, Chip, in Newburgh, New York and has two grown sons in Colorado Springs.

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Great Little Book About Teaching Children About Anger


Teaching Christs Children about Feeling Angry is written from a child’s point of view, which makes it oh so much easier to be able to say “let’s read this”

Hyman brings practical daily use, Bible Verses and an easy to read format to help children understand that being angry is okay, sinning while we are angry is not.

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Teaching Christ’s Children about Feeling Angry, while the title implies it is for Christians only, gives extremely great common advice for anyone.  Not just Christians.  This is the only thing I do not like about the book.  To me, the title excludes some children.  Even though we are all children of God, someone who has never read the Bible could interpret this title to say “not me”

I know that isn’t what Hyman wanted or is saying.  With great illustrations, and following a series of books by Hyman, I love the content of the book and think the title needs work!  



More about the Author

CorineCorine Hyman is a clinical psychologist who has helped families for close to 10 years. Currently, she lives in Baltimore, MD where she has opened her home to children without families by becoming a foster parent. The idea for her first book, Why We Give Gifts at Christmas Time,  was placed in her heart many years ago and since its publishing Corine has published several other books including: What Is Love, My Journey with Jesus Christ, Jaden Goes to Foster Care, (see my review here) and Why I Give. With the exception of Jaden Goes to Foster Care, each book is designed to use the Bible to help both children and adults understand the biblical basis for why Christians do what they do. Look for her upcoming series on what the Bible has to say about feelings in August of 2015. To help design a character in her upcoming book, email her at

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When Church Hurts – What Do You Do?

(this is a reblog of something I  Published on: May 8, 2014 @ 6:03 of last year) it seems very fitting again

Psalm 15 depicts the marks of an authentic Christian. It says,

“He casts no slur on his fellowman…. but honors those who fear the Lord In any given troubling situation we need to honestly ask ourselves, “Am I making choices that allow God to be in control here or am I taking control?”

I know I am trying my best to allow God to take control… what do you do when church members do not do the same.  How do you react?  how do you minister to them?  DO you minister to them?

Sometimes relationships at church can be some of the most hurtful ever.


Satan has a way of doing that.  Hitting us where it hurts the most.  Our families, our jobs, our church….

When things are going bad and they sometimes will… when you put a lot of different personalities in a setting where they make decisions, and they decide things based on emotion, feelings, reactions, etc.

How do you react.

Turn the other cheek

 But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well.  Matthew 5:39 ESV

Do unto others,

For every action, there must be an equal and opposite reaction (Newton’s Third Law)

But seriously:

(quote by Anthony Robbins)

Whatever happens, YOU must pray, first, you must pray.  You must change your heart.  You must witness to that person.  The best way you can.  IF you can, sometimes that is not going to be an opportunity.

If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone.  If he listens to you, you have gained your brother  Matthew 18:15

Whatever happens, YOU must pray, first, you must pray.  You must change YOUR heart.  You must witness to that person.  The best way you can.  IF you can  Sometimes that is not going to be an opportunity.

So you seek forgiveness within yourself, from yourself and for that person.  You talk to God.

However I MUST ask , how many times do you turn the other cheek.  How many times do you let someone run over you in the name Of Jesus. 

Because church hurts, even though desires for church to be a safe place and a sanctuary, sometimes that is not going to happen and you MUST deal with the situation, not brush it under the carpet.

If you do that, resentment builds, distrust builds, and lack of “love” for God’s people happens…

So forgive yourself, love yourself, love the other person, the best way you can, and know that while it’s probably going to happen… You are the one that must be the change.



Verio One Touch Sync Glucose Meter Review

Blood sugar results. Your iPhone®.
Together at last.

Introducing OneTouch® Verio®Sync. The meter that automatically sends your results wirelessly to your iPhone, iPad®, or iPod® touch, using the OneTouch® Revealmobile app.

Compatible with any iPhone, iPad or iPod touch, running IOS 5.1 or later. See full product specifications heresync_pod1_phone


Okay, I have had a LOT of meters since I being diagnosed with diabetes Type 2 in June of 2001.   I mean a LOT.  It seems like my insurance is changing their “preferred” brand every couple of months and their “preferred” provider every couple of months.Now, that being said.  I was once again, asked to change meters.  So I went ahead and got the one I wanted instead.Let me just say, I LOVE this meter.  It is incredible!!  First, it is just so easy.  No controls, nothing hard, just really simple.  put a strip in, lance the finger, and suck the blood up!  How much easier does it get as far as meters go.Untitled

But the most incredible part.  NO MORE LOGS!!!!  It automatically syncs with my iPhone. Also, you can set up alarms automatically based on how many times that you test, and your phone gives you a notification.  NO REASON not to test, or to forget to test, or whatever.  Testing regularly means your diabetes will be better controlled.

Now, as far as I know it is only on the IOS Platform at this time.  The app is free and you can download it free from the App Store here:

One Touch Reveal Mobile App

OneTouch Reveal On the App Store

and believe it or not, the meter is “preferred” on my insurance.  However, I opted to buy it so I could get it when I wanted it.

Out of the box, you have a meter, a lancer, a USB cord and a charging block for AC charging.

Easy Peasy.  The set up was also easy.  It syncs over  Bluetooth with my phone, and then it sets the date and time according to your wireless connection.  You do NOT have to be connected by wi-fi, but you do have to be connected by Bluetooth.

These are all the things you can do through the app.

The OneTouch® Verio®Sync Meter wirelessly sends blood sugar results to the OneTouch® Reveal™ mobile app. Once a blood sugar result is sent to the app you can:

Tag the blood sugar result with a meal flag.
Receive High and Low Pattern messages.
Add carbs, activity, medication data and notes about your activities.
Manually enter other blood sugar test results.
Review results on graphs.
Share your blood sugar results with others.
Set reminders to prompt you to test, snack, exercise, order testing supplies, etc.


It also has a light that you can turn on and off while you are testing, so no more bright lights in the middle of the night when you are sinking or you can just have an extra little gadget on it!  

This is my actual meter. It is charging at this point, but I will show you a stock picture of the screen

 You can get a copy of the quick start guide here. 

Below is the meter in action.  Check out this video:  

I paid $29.99 from the One Touch Website and received it within a couple of days. I received 30% off and free shipping and that is a deal that is still going on now.  It took me longer to get the strips and lancets because of doctors and insurance and a new company and everyone wanting to be in control, however I was ready.  I firmly believe that I am the only person that can totally control my healthcare besides God.  I MUST be 100% in control of it, because no one else is looking out for my best interest, but that is a whole different blog series!!!  and I digress.
Now the strips are only for use by any of the Verio machines, they are not interchangeable with any other OneTouch machine.  The Lancer, which is called a One Touch Delica.  I made a choice to continue using it, however, any Lancer will do.  It doesn’t even need to be a One Touch Brand.  Just  know if you use the Delica though, it has different kind of lancet (see all the pictures of everything at the bottom of this post)

I am extremely happy with this machine and the user interface that comes from my iPhone 5.  (other platforms of iPhone are compatible, like the 4, 4S and 5C and 5S, iPad or iPod Touch running IOS 5.1 or later)

I don’t think I have ever been this excited about using a meter.  

Here is all the technical stuff that goes with the meter and instead of reinventing the wheel, I did copy this right off of the OneTouch Website so that I knew it would be exact based on their findings.  You cn find that information here

All pictures and products are the property of OneTouch.  I have linked back to their website.  You can also find all information here. and

Test Time: 5 seconds
Backlight: Illuminated test strip port and backlight
Power source: Rechargeable Battery
Battery life: 1 – 2 weeks between charges
Memory: Stores up to 500 results
Automatic shutoff: Your meter will turn off by itself within 10 seconds after sending results to the mobile device. In all other instances, the meter will turn off by itself if left alone for 2 minutes.

Operating ranges:
Bluetooth®: The meter and mobile device need to be within 10 feet of each other to pair and sync using Bluetooth® technology.
Temperature: 50-111°F
Altitude: Up to 10,000 ft
Relative Humidity: Non-condensing 10-90%
Hematocrit: 20-60%
Individual Unit Weight: Approximately 1.7 ounces
Individual Unit Dimensions: 3.94″ L x 1.63″ W x 0.46″ H

Contents of the Box:
OneTouch® Verio®Sync Blood Glucose Meter (with internal rechargeable battery)
10 OneTouch® Verio® Test Strips
OneTouch® Verio® Level 3 Control Solution
OneTouch® Delica® Lancing Device
10 OneTouch® Delica® Lancets
Mini USB cable
AC adapter
Carrying case
OneTouch® Verio®Sync Owner’s Booklet
OneTouch® Verio®Sync Get Started Guide

iPod touch®, iPhone®, and iPad® not included.

Apple, the Apple logo, iPhone, iPad and iPod touch are trademarks of Apple Inc., registered in the U.S. and other countries. App Store is a service mark of Apple Inc.

The Bluetooth® word mark and logos are registered trademarks owned by Bluetooth SIG, Inc., and any use of such marks by LifeScan, Inc is under license. Other trademarks and trade names are those of their respective owners.
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I received NOTHING in exchange for this review.  I bought my meter and made this review on my own

My Own Mr Darcy – Karey White – Book Review


in My Own Mr. Darcy, Karey White writes a very enjoyable, stand a lone book that has a tie in to Pride and Prejudice. One of my favorite books. 16-year-old Elizabeth goes to see a movie that she doesn’t want to see. She becomes obsessed with Mr. Darcy in the movie, Pride and Prejudice that she vows that her “friend’ will only be a Mr. Darcy.
Of which, she bases her entire dating career around. She must find “Her Own Mr. Darcy”

After years of trying to find her Own Mr. Darcy and coming up empty, Elizabeth’s roommate, challenges her to the next person she dates, to give him ten dates That guy is Chad, a kind and thoughtful science teacher and swim coach. She meets and dates a few times the person that is right for her, Chad. However, she just hasn’t figured it out yet. In the meantime, she meets “her Mr. Darcy” handsome, rich, Bookstore ownder Matt. She follows her dream of what she thinks a man should be, and ends up disillusioned, because Matt isn’t Mr. Darcy after the chips fall. he is not nice, arrogant, and all in all, nothing like Mr. Darcy.
While Elizabeth has this dream, does she throw it all away to find true love, or does she continue on her path with finding “her own Mr.Darcy”My Own Mr. Darcy






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The Day of Tears

Ever have one of those days, where everything that possibly could go wrong did.  Do NOT lie to me and tell me you haven’t, because there is just no way, every day you have is perfect.  It just doesn’t happen

However, it all depends on how you look at it.

I’m blessed, I KNOW I’m blessed.

Again, I am so blessed beyond measure and I KNOW, I am blessed.

One more time, I am so very blessed, and I know that I have a God who reigns on High and will give me the tools to do everything that ever changes my way of thinking!!!

See it’s all in how you look at it.

Let me roll back about a week and a half.

I found another diabetic ulcer on my foot.  Not the one that usually gets them, but the other one, so that was strange in and of itself.  I went to church last Sunday night though and I could NOT get it to quit bleeding out.  It ruined a perfectly good pair of shoes, and let me just say, I’m glad our carpet at church us red. (seriously)

That’s how much it was bleeding.  So I try to get in to see the dr and I get told that it will be two weeks, and well I was so frustrated because this particular person on the other end of the phone didn’t listen to me at all, that I just hung up and decided to call back for the nurse.  I finally get her on the phone and she says, well it’s going to be two weeks.  I say one more time, You DID hear me say I have a diabetic wound?  I don’t know what was going on in their office, but it must have been something very serious, but she just abruptly said, I’ve got to go, and will call you back soon. <~~~ First lesson to myself, that I know I am blessed.  i was saying prayers for whatever/whoever was happening in the clinic and that everything was okay.

She did, we worked it out and he would see me on Thurs because I had an appointment with my PCP on Wed and at least it would already be started being treated.

My granddaughter ends up sick and I give her my appointment <~~~~ there is another reason that I know I am blessed.  My sweet baby had a double ear infection and was in a good bit of pain.  So glad she was able to get in to see the dr quickly and hat she got some meds and was on her way to healing.

I get to the wound care clinic and they do my A1C and when the dr comes in, he is furious with me.  First, apparently I missed an appointment, my A1C had jumped about 3 points, and several other things.  But I know I’m blessed.  Really!  I do KNOW it

So go ahead to today, after a grand holiday with my family and friends and great fireworks and the most incredible fried fish I have ever had (thank you Brian and Hale) and just a great evening of being with grandkids,kids, sister, etc.

Life is so good.  We went to church, cleaned a lot over the weekend, and just had a fantastic time.  Paul had a 4 day weekend for the FIRST time in we can’t remember (we really seriously tried to figure it out, and we are figuring, July 4th of last year when we went on a short vacation)

anyway, fast forward to Monday morning.  I have a nurse visit and a million phone calls to make.  So I start on the phone calls, etc and the nurse gets here and re dresses my foot, but I had already started feeling down and having myself a good old-fashioned pity party.

I finished up the day, with chores etc, from my bed with the dog and by the end of the day, I am in serious tears.

I mean serious tears.  Sobbing crying, <~~~~  I don’t know why, other than I was feeling sorry for myself.

Then I got word of a good friend who fell and broke his ankle in two places.  A man who does so much for the community in so many different ways, and I thought you dingaling, think about, you still have so much use of your foot, why are you crying, you have a beautiful family to dote on, why are you crying?  Your life is pretty dadgum good!!! WHY are you crying?

I honestly can’t tell you why I was crying.  I don’t know.  I do know that after more than a few minutes and along talk with God, I was thinking to myself, how trivial.  How much have I neglected to see in my pity party.  The sunshine, the sunrise, the sunset, my flowers growing, going outside to watch the dog play, being “in” the world, and not just cooped up in my bed feeling sorry for myself.

God tells us, do everything with a cheerful heart.  I know he doesn’t mean, plaster a fake smile on your face and go through the motions, He means, have love in your heart, a smile on your face, and let Him rule your thoughts to get you through the hard times.

I’ve heard so much bad news today, a HS friend’s cancer has spread, a baby died because her parents left her in the car in the heat, a man was bitten by a shark, the uprising in all the foreign countries, our border collapse and the problems that are facing the border agents and just on and on and on.  And here I am crying for who knows why?

When you are so down that you lose control of yourself and the only recourse is that pity party.  Have it.  A good cry is worth so much.  Just remember though, that in that pity party, you MUST realize that you have a Lord and Savior that rules over your and that you are the child of the ONE TRUE KING!!!

How on earth can that NOT put a smile on your face?

I know I will have more bad days.  Those bad days may come sooner than later.  <~~~~~But I have so MUCH to be thankful for and I am so incredibly blessed, because I know that I have a God that loves me, He lives in my heart and He will heal my wounded heart, my wounded spirit and my physical wounds

This song, came to my heart today, and I love the words,

Jesus, He meets you where you are, He heals your secret scars

Can you imagine the  day of tears that Mary felt, or the disciples.  The sadness, the weariness, that feeling of dread.  KNOWING that Jesus was going to be crucified on the cross.  That sadness, but oh what sheer joy we find in that empty tomb.  The empty tomb!!  Oh what a blessing it is, to know that MY SAVIOR lives, and that He loves… He loves so much, that He collects my tears. He gathers them up, he keeps them for me, and I know HE heals my wounded heart…

.I am so incredibly blessed that I never have to fret, and in fact He tells me to let Him do that!  Let Him take my worries, my sadness, my tears…The tears I can throw away and praise HIM <~~~~because I am blessed..

Friend of a Wounded Heart - By Wayne Watson
Smile, make 'em think you're happy
 Lie and say that things are fine
 And hide that empty longing that you feel
 Don't ever show it, just keep your heart concealed
Why are the days so lonely?
 I wonder where, where can a heart go free
 And who will dry the tears that no one's seen?
 There must be someone to share your silent dreams
Caught like a leaf in the wind
 Lookin' for a friend, where can you turn?
 Whisper the words of a prayer and you'll find Him there
 Arms open wide, love in His eyes
Jesus, He meets you where you are
 Jesus, He heals your secret scars
 All the love you're longing for
 Is Jesus, the friend of a wounded heart
Joy comes like the the morning
 And hope deepens as you grow
 And peace, beyond the reaches of your soul
 Comes blowing through you, for love has made you whole
Once like a leaf in the wind
 Looking for a friend, where could you turn?
 You spoke the words of a prayer and you found Him there
 Arms open wide, love in His eyes
Jesus, He meets you where you are
 Jesus, He heals your secret scars
 All the love you're longing for
 Is Jesus, the friend of a wounded heart
He meets you where you are
 Jesus, He heals your secret scars
 All the love you're longing for, all the love that you need
 Is Jesus, the friend of a wounded heart
The friend of a wounded heart


FIve Minute Friday Close


 [v. klohz; adj., adv. 
verb (used with object), closed, clos·ing. put (something) in a position to obstruct an entrance, opening, etc.; shut. stop or obstruct (a gap, entrance, apertureetc.): to close a hole in a wall with plaster. block or hinder passage across or access to: to close a border to tourists; to close the woods topicnickers. stop or obstruct the entrances, apertures, or gaps in: He closed the crate and tied it up.
5.(of the mind) to make imperceptive or inaccessible: to close one’s mind to the opposite opinion. bring together the parts of; join; unite (often followed by up  ): Close up those ranks! The surgeonclosed the incision.
7.Electricity to complete (an electrical circuit) by joining the circuit elements: The circuit was closed sothe current could be measured. bring to an end: to close a debate. arrange the final details of; to conclude negotiations about: to close a deal to everyone’s satisfaction. complete or settle (a contract or transaction); consummate: We close the sale of the house nextweek. stop rendering the customary services of: to close a store for the night. terminate or suspend the operation of; to halt the activities of: The epidemic forced authorities toclose the schools. The police closed the bar for selling liquor to minors.
13.Nautical to come close to: We closed the cruiser to put our injured captain on board.
14.Metalworking. to reduce the internal diameter of (a tube or the like).
15.Archaic. to shut in or surround on all sides; enclose; cover in: to close a bird in a cage.


so many meanings… Close to you, Close to God, Close the door, they closed the circut, etc, etc.

God being close to me is my redeeming quality.  I am so blessed and so thankful that I have a close relationship with

God.  Don’t get me wrong, it’s not near as close as I want it to be.  However, He loves me, He protects me, and HE is my

saving grace.  Without His grace and mercy I would be nothing, absolutely nothing.  I thank HIM everyday that He is

never changing because I know I am, I know I am unworthy and such a worm.

He brings me up, He makes me His, because I give my heart to Him alone.


God’s Love Is Closeness

God’s love is drawn to us that want Him.  He will never move, never leave.  You just desire.  Tell Him.  He knows, but

you tell

James 4:8 says, Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.


I found so many other verses about this very thing.  If you want to read them click   here

God desires us to ask him.  His need to be wanted is so passionate and He is a jealous God.

The devil will do whatever he can in any role he can to make you think that you don’t need God or have a close

relationship with God.

But you do.  It’s his WILL, His DESIRE, He loves us so much, He wants us for eternity.  Are you close, do you desire to be

closer still?  Read your Bible, Pray, find a Home Church, Talk to Him, just like a friend.  Have a

conversation.  Outloud!!!

I try to live this every day. Be closer to God

Five Minute Friday

Five Minute Friday


(this is from Lisa-Jo Baker’s Blog that explains FMF)
So, here’s the skinny: every Friday for going on four years now hundreds of people have joined a kind of writing flash mob over here.
We write for five minutes flat. All on the same prompt that I post here at 1 minute past midnight EST ever Friday. And we connect on Twitter with the #FMFParty (It stands for Five Minute Friday Party).
No extreme editing; no worrying about perfect grammar, font, or punctuation.
Unscripted. Unedited. Real.
It started because I’d been thinking about writing and how often our perfectionism gets in the way of our words. And I figured, why not take 5 minutes and see what comes out: not a perfect post, not a profound post, just five minutes of focused writing.
So now on Fridays a group of people who love to throw caution to the wind and just write without worrying if it’s just right gather to share what five minutes buys them. Just five minutes.
Your words. This shared feast. It’s easy to join in, just:
Check what the prompt is on my Lisa Jo Baker’s Blog.
Write a post in only five minutes on that topic on your blog.
{And if you don’t have a blog, no worries! Just leave your writing as a comment on my post} Link over to Lisa’s blog and invite friends to join in. Select the permalink to your post {so not your blog url but your post url } Using the blue linky tool at the bottom of Lisa’ Five Minute Friday post enter your link. It will also walk you through selecting which photo you want to show up in the linky. Your post will show up in our Five Minute Friday linky. Be sure and encourage the person who linked up before you!
Our most important requirement for participation: There’s really only one absolute, no ifs, ands or buts about it
Five Minute Friday rule: you must visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments. Seriously. That is, like, the rule. And the fun. And the heart of this community
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