The Joy Of Letting Go

 Did you know parents let go of their children every day, often in ways they don’t realize? Whether your kids are in kindergarten or college, learn how to prepare your hearts for your kids’ independence with Vicki Caruana’s The Joy of Letting Go. The 52 devotional readings within shine a light on all the times readers have loosened their grip on their children and encourages them to continue to let go in life-giving ways. Written by a parenting and education expert, The Joy of Letting Go will comfort and inspire parents in all seasons of parenting.



The Joy of Letting Go: Releasing Your Teen into Real Life in the Big World (David C. Cook, April 2017)

With readings of encouragement and inspirational quotes, this devotional helps parents prepare their hearts for their children’s independence, whether their kids are just starting kindergarten or graduating from college.

Parents let go of their children every day, even in ways they don’t realize. The 52 devotional readings within shine a light on all the times readers have loosened their grip on their children and encourages them to continue to let go in life-giving ways. Written by a parenting and education expert, The Joy of Letting Go will comfort and inspire parents in all seasons of parenting.

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My Review

My children are 37, 33, 33 and 28. I was that person that, while teaching my children to be extremely self sufficient, I also was THAT MOM. You know the one.

My child was special! Amazing! Going to rule the world!! (Rolling eyes at myself here)

I also was going to do whatever it took to make that happen.

In doing that, I alienated all my kids and made their life more difficult. Not only were they not 100% prepared, no matter what I taught them, and me having nothing (so I thought) to hang my hat on, our lives became very complicated to say the least.

You raise your kids for the result, to leave your home and be out on their own.

You need to give them the self confidence that they can leave your home, and want to come back and more importantly are comfortable coming home to visit.

They want to come back, NOT because they need to, but because they want to.

God gives us resources to work through this season of our lives!
Vicki Caruana puts these resources together in a great devotional called “The Joy of Letting Go: Releasing Your Teen into Real Life In The Big World
“The, very best words we have from God are Phil 4:6-7- Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with Thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus”


There it is. The direction in which we should let our kids go.

From their first little steps, all the way to the college dorm (or first apartment and job etc.)

With prayer and petition, with Thanksgiving.

Oh, how I would live a do-over!!
1st. For the plain and simple reason that I would follow God’s command.
2nd. So that my children could see me and their childhood home in a different frame of mind. By reframing my whole “mother hen” attitude to a #spreadtheirwingsandwnjoytheirflight attitude, I would give my kids the best thing ever.

Truth that Jesus will protect them and truth that they would always find their way back home.

The verse I gave is one that Caruana uses with 52 devotionals to help parents understand that growing up and moving on (in most cases) isn’t optional, it is the way God intended life to be.

You can purchase The Joy of Letting Go  here at the bottom of the information

Dr. VicVCaruana-435ki Caruana is the author of 20 books and the blog Apples & Chalkdust—named after her bestselling book that has touched the lives of a million educators around the world. Caruana is one of four parenting experts on “Starting Points,” Focus on the Family’s parenting DVD series. Formerly a public school teacher and a homeschooling mom, Vicki is now an assistant professor of education at Mount Saint Mary College in New York. She lives with her station wagon loving husband, Chip, in Newburgh, New York and has two grown sons in Colorado Springs.

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Turning 78! Happy Birthday Dad!

We had my dad’s 78 birthday party today and while he is failing and his health is getting the best of him, he’s so awesome!!!  I love my dad!!  He is the best!!  He’s funny, he’s amazing, and in spite of the life that has been dealt him, he’s still hitting it in stride. 

Dad still gets up everyday, goes in to eat breakfast, still works on the farm. 

Still putters around working on things, and fixing things.  I hope he never stops!  I’m selfish…

I know the day is coming and I know that my dad is in poor health.  He’s on oxygen almost constantly.  He has End Stage Emphysema and is getting little bugs more and more as the days go by, but still he doesn’t stop.

Dad has lived a pretty amazing and difficult life when you look at it.  At 31, he was in a car wreck, that not only crushed him, but took the life of his only son, he lived for months in a body cast.  Left crippled and would never work in an organized job again due to this injury.  However, he had some amazing friends and family.  While this happened.  Our friends and family, it was August when it happened, and harvest time, took over daddy’s farm, got all the crop in, on time, got everything to market, made sure that all the crops were canned, and put up.    Yep, that’s just amazing that, they left their families, during such a hard time anyway, (1964) and did so much for our family, because we couldn’t.  

Then Dad literally had a life changing career, and had to farm, a very hard life, dusk to dawn, depending on rain, winters, heat, cold, literally, mom would pray to God daily for the gift of God’s weather, to see us through each summer, and each winter, and no matter what happened, mom and dad, got us through.  I don’t know how they did it, but they did it.  We never wanted for anything.  

They saw us through band, through cheerleading, through sports, through activites, anything we wanted.  They gave.

We graduated,  we married, Then dad, lost another child.  My middle sister.  Okay.  TWO kids.  One is enough, but now two.  But still he musters on.  And mom is his biggest champion the whole way through.  This is in 1988.  All this time, he’s dealt with us kids all the time, with us, having problems in HS, problems in college, our problems with drugs, getting in trouble, divorce, our coming home, moving out, moving in, and just loved us in spite of ourselves.  Dad is amazing.  We’ve had kids of our own, we’ve had homes of our own.  And still Dad is alwasy there. 

Then in 1988.  Life changes forever for dad a second time.  Melanie is taken from us.  Dad moves on.  lives his life.  keeps going and musters on.  He’s always there for me and my oldest sister.  We are all that’s left of the kids.  Although he’s hard, he’s there for us, no matter what.  He never leaves our sides.  Although at times, we think he does.

Then his dad dies in 1993, mom is in the hospital diagnosed with kidney cancer and then dies the next January.  And he still muddles on.  Then my husband is diagnosed with cancer in August of 94.  And still he muddles on.

Kids of kids get married, have babies, move on, move out, move in, move home.  And still he muddles on.

Dad is the best!  I’ve seen people with lives like this that would break under all the pressure.  I did.  And yes dad has shut things out, and gotten hard, but for the most part, dad is funny, and is good to us!  He is a great dad!  

I love you Dad.  I thank you Dad!  I can never give back to you, everything you’ve ever given to us in our life, but I thank you for everything.  Big and small.  And I hope that we have so many more years, and I pray that whatever years we have left can only be the best years of your life!!


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